Reflections

No Such Thing as Unplanned

"Unplanned" is often used as a scapegoat and reason to justify the unthinkable. This is not what I planned... fill in the blank. Most of my life was not what I planned. Yet as I look back there is evidence of God doing something good in all those unplanned moments. I...

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What Wives Wished Their Husbands to Knew

My work predominately involves the preparation of men and women for marriage in the Catholic Church, as well as listening to those who are struggling within their marriage. This gives me a particular perspective on some of the common communication struggles that can...

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What Husbands Want their Wives To Know

This piece serves as a follow up from my previous article entitled, “What Wives Want Their Husbands to Know.” While these articles are in no way exhaustive, they are common stumbling blocks I encounter in my work in marriage ministry. Both in the preparation side and...

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Desiring More, Settling for Less

What is it about we humans wherein we want diamonds, but we settle for broken glass? We see this in many areas of our life; jobs, exercise, and relationships to name a few. We want good things for ourselves, meaningful work, a sleek rock-hard body, a learned mind, a...

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Good Marriage Prep Matters

In my work preparing engaged couples for marriage, I find myself pondering what might have been different for us, if my husband and I would have been required to take the same prep that is currently offered in the Diocese of Phoenix. While we were married in Phoenix...

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Blessed Doughnuts

What is the deal with Catholics and doughnuts? I have memories of being bribed by doughnuts through much of my young and snarky life, to either behave in or attend extra masses. My father was successful at getting all five kids to join him at daily mass in the sacred...

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Down But Not Out

Yesterday I got the flu. I tried to ignore it, but like a thunderstorm, flus do not go away just because you ignore them, they actually pick up intensity. Last night I could no longer hold that storm at bay so I crashed in the way of taking to my bed. Thunderous...

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Oh Holy Night

Oh light from on high, for us You came, Shattering the darkness, our ignorance, and shame. You came as Innocence, a babe in Virgin's womb, In poverty You entered, no place for humble child to room. Angel choirs filled the night sky, Mountains, valleys, with all...

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Stuffing the Pie

Thanksgiving-the National Vigil of Black Friday? What? Wait. NO!! Yes, I'm afraid we seem to have lost our way. This day, I thought was to stop, sit still, remember and be grateful. To surround ourselves with family and friends, you know those people that we are most...

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Vulcan Death Grip

As I proceed with my recovery I am currently seeking relief through therapeutic massage. Don't be confused with the massage word meaning I am in bliss, and total relaxation. That I am not. No, therapeutic massage is something quite different indeed. If you have...

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On the Airwaves

It's been awhile since I updated my blog. What a roller coaster of a year. A move in January, a wedding in March, hit by a car two days later. Months of recovery. A new granddaughter in June. Lots of doctors visits, physical therapy appointments, and work all squashed...

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“Hang In There”

About 8 months ago, I brought a meal and spent some time visiting a friend of mine who was having another bout with cancer. Two months ago that same friend brought dinner to me as I recovered from my accident. Two weeks ago I stood at her bedside as she unconsciously...

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A Mother’s Heart

It's Mother's Day here in the USA. Why should we bother to continue this day of remembrance? Well for one thing, we all have mothers. Mothers are indispensable, a necessity whether they are our biological, adopted, or spiritual mothers. Mother's care, or at least they...

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Suffering Makes Sense

Its been a month since the accident. Each day a new beginning, challenge and opportunity presents itself. What do I do with it? While being hit by a car was never on my bucket list, it has provided me with a way to reach out to others who have experienced or are in...

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A Second Chance

It's been almost three weeks since I was hit by a car riding to work. That's the day my life made a hard stop and took a radical step backwards. I am back to baby steps. On one hand it is kind of surreal, on the other hand, it is very real. Each day is a new...

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Spiritual But Not Religious, Really?

I meet so many young adults who are "spiritual but not religious." What does that mean? It is like saying I love coffee but smelling it suffices I love to experience nature but I don't leave my house. I love God....but I can't imagine actually going to church and...

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Glad You Asked

“Why do you bring God into every conversation?” This simple question was posed to me recently by someone I love dearly. Let me attempt to explain. How do you not bring the Author of Life into life itself? How can I speak of the reason for my joy, my hope, my strength...

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Dear Brittany Maynard

You don’t know me, and sadly, I don’t know you. Why should you care what another voice among the millions is saying? Because, I believe I have good news. Like so many, your story has crashed into my world, just as cancer crashed into yours. As expected in your very...

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Tidings

Watching the rhythmic ocean waves hit the shoreline can be calming and I've found reassuring as well. It makes me think about the constancy of God's love for each of us. It is always reaching out for us, consistently, gently. Always beckoning and inviting us that we...

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Pray, Hope, and Don’t Worry

These five little unassuming words by St. Pio of Pietrelcina, (Padre Pio), are as simple as they are powerful! Pray- God is waiting there beside you, closer than the very air you breathe. Speak, but learn to listen. Ask, but don't be afraid to act. Trust and...

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Holding Ourselves Responsible

"If you do not speak out to dissuade the wicked from his way, I will hold you responsible for his death. If, however, you warn the wicked to turn from their ways, but they do not, then they shall die in their sins, but you shall save your life." Ezekiel 33:8-9 Those...

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